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Where is the boundary?

Boundaries are rules that we expect people to live by. Groups of people have them to help make life run smoother. So as we go about our daily life’s we encounter all sorts of different groups and so the boundaries change. There will be different expectations based on if we are with family, at school, at work, walking down the street or sitting in a movie theatre. It is import to have stable boundaries that do not move or change too often.
We get use to the different boundaries of what is right and wrong depending on the group we are with. If they were to change from day to day or hour to hour we would struggle to make sense of things and how we should act. So boundaries are good. They help tell us what is okay and not okay.

There can be a time and a place for different types of behaviour. It depends on who is about and where we are as to what is the boundary. Leaning where and when the different types of behaviour are appropriate is an important social skill to learn. Of course sometimes because of the type of behaviour that time or place is never. But to learn this skill we need feedback on how our behaviour fits within the boundaries set by the group we are in. So to encourage appropriate behaviour we need to establish boundaries and encourage people to act within them. A response of “this is not the time or place for …” can help young people to learn about different types of boundaries.
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